feel them. Feel each sentence independently without being influenced by the previous one.
- You are not important.
- Are you really important?
- You are important!
- You are really important.
I
hope you have managed to feel each sentence independently. The truth is, the
feeling you felt about the first sentence influenced the others. To most of us,
the first sentence kinda really penetrated inside, making the rest unimportant!
Before
coming up with this exercise, I was analyzing how most people feel about being
important. One thing I realized is that most people’s importance is affirmed by
other people, especially people we look up to. We all speak to ourselves,
affirming who we are. But have you realized how sometimes our own voice is not
as powerful as the voice of others?
We
have all struggled with a notorious mosquito. The kind of mosquito that makes
you wonder, are mosquitoes important? And as much as we might feel as if
mosquitoes are not important, their importance is not determined by our opinion
of the same.
Some
people don’t feel as if they are important. Yet if you told them in the face
that they are not important, affirming their inner voice, they would get really
offended and become defensive, a feeling produced by the first sentence above.
Other
people really feel important. And most of these people feel important because
of something external. An accomplishment, a recognition, a status or something.
And if a stranger who was not aware of who they are came and told them in the
face that they are important, it would feel awkward. This is because their importance
is tied to something known. And if they lost that thing, they would feel
unimportant.
It
therefore seems the issue of importance is really a personal issue. And when I
was thinking about it on a personal level, I realized how unimportant I have
felt because my inner voice was not as powerful as the external voices. It is
as if someone telling me am important has a greater value than I, who knows
myself better, telling it to myself. And to some extent I would find myself
wanting to hear someone tell me I am important.
And
imagine if I had titled this blog post with either of the four sentences. Had I
titled it.. You are not important.. Those
I know and who expect me to know they are important would have felt bad, those
who are doubting their importance would have sought to look for an affirmation
and those who I don’t know would have wanted to prove that I am wrong. Had I
titled this blog post.. You are important,
those I know, seeking an affirmation would have felt really good to read on,
those who I don’t know and they feel important would have ignored while most
people would think it is just a cliché.
Now,
what if I had titled it… I am not
important… So many of you would feel so sorry for me… and wonder why I feel
this way. Others would actually agree.
The
essence of this post is to encourage you to know that you are important. And
your importance is not pegged to something external as much as is, your
intrinsic value. We should learn to believe in who we are and be impervious of
the external voices that may or may not agree with us. We should give more
weight to the voice in our heart more than the voice of others. That our
importance is first and foremost ours to feel, to know, to be.
Could it be being that being important is not something to feel? Could it be something to know, like head knowledge? Just a thought.
Could it be being that being important is not something to feel? Could it be something to know, like head knowledge? Just a thought.
Are
you important? You tell it to yourself!
